Moving a parent into a care home is one of life’s most significant decisions. At Oakland Care Group, we understand the emotional complexities families face when considering residential care.
But how to get an elderly person into a care home if they are unwilling to go? This is a really difficult task for any family. Our experienced team has supported many families through this journey, and we’re here to help guide you through the process.
Opening the Conversation
The key to a successful transition begins with open, compassionate communication. Starting these discussions early gives everyone time to process the change and explore options together. We recommend choosing a quiet moment when both you and your parent are relaxed and have time to talk without interruption.
“My mum has been living at Oakland Court since August, and I cannot praise the staff highly enough. The home is well maintained, clean and welcoming. Nothing is too much trouble for them.”
– Daughter of Resident, Oakland Court
Addressing Common Concerns
It’s natural for parents to have concerns about moving into a care home. Common worries often include:
• Losing independence
• Leaving their familiar surroundings
• Changes to daily routines
• Making new social connections
At Oakland Care Group, we address these concerns by involving future residents in decisions about their care from the very beginning. Our person-centred approach ensures that each resident maintains as much independence as possible while receiving the support they need.
How to Get an Elderly Person Into a Care Home if They Don’t Want to Go?
The first step is to approach the situation with patience, empathy, and understanding. Acknowledge their concerns and fears, as many seniors worry about losing their independence, leaving behind familiar surroundings, or adjusting to a new routine.
It’s important to have open, honest conversations about their feelings and to offer reassurance. Involve them in the decision-making process, explaining how the care home can improve their quality of life and provide the support they need.
Ask a trusted family member, friend, or professional to help, as your loved one may listen to someone else. Once the decision is made, the next challenge is how to help a loved one settle in, and a calm, steady approach in those early weeks makes a noticeable difference. You could also arrange a visit to the care home so they can see the place and meet the staff, which might make them feel more at ease.
Seek Professional Support
Sometimes, having an experienced professional join the conversation can help. Our homes’ management teams are happy to meet with families to discuss specific concerns and explain how we support residents in maintaining their independence and dignity.
We can arrange home visits or welcome you to tour either of our homes, meeting our care team and seeing daily life in action.
“We could not be happier with the care and attention our mother receives from all the staff at Oakland Grange. The management and carers are first class. Nothing is too much trouble and communication is excellent.”
– Family Member of Resident, Oakland Grange
Making Informed Decisions
We encourage families to:
• Visit our homes
• Join us for lunch to experience our dining service
• Speak with other residents’ families about their experiences
• Ask questions about our care approach and daily activities
Through regular contact with our care teams, families stay connected with their loved one’s daily activities and care. This transparency helps ease concerns and maintains strong family involvement in care decisions.
Taking the Next Step
When you’re ready to explore residential care options, we’re here to help. Our experienced team can guide you through the assessment process and help you understand how we can meet your parent’s specific needs.
We welcome you to visit either Oakland Court or Oakland Grange to experience our warm, welcoming atmosphere firsthand. Contact us to arrange a visit or discuss any questions you may have.
Contact us:
Email: enquiries@oaklandcare.co.uk
Website: https://oaklandcare.co.uk/
